Monday, April 2, 2007
Initially, i created this blog and my other 'gravid' (swedish for pregnant) blog to allow my friends from different stages in my life and different places in the world to come to me. Sound selfish? Well, absolutely! But its free, so case closed. i'm an only child, so the world has revolved around me for decades now, but that 'only child' tag also meant that i would develop friendships that become the family i created for myself because I wanted YOU in my life and so this is a part of that experience.
Getting closer everyday to the new life that is upon us, makes me also sit down more, relax and ponder the future and realize that everything has a time, place and reason. And it takes a certain 'certainity' to say that and be one with it. I can say without any doubt in my mind that I have been at the happiest in my life after meeting my beloved JP. He is what has made me see 'me' and allowed me to be 'me' and love me for 'me' like all my friends have done and continue to do. This also means that one cannot get to this place without putting any effort or energy, i have done that with my friends and will continue to do that as long as I live. You, my friends mean the world to me and i thank you for it.
This explosion of deep thoughts comes today after receiving a VERY thoughtful email from my graphic design college buddy, Ingrid-whom i got to know really well only my last semester at ASU but have been in touch with ever since. She lives in Seattle with her baby Holland and husband Charlie and is just one of the funniest females I know. She sent me an email that allows me to share that its not just material things that make a 'virtual shower' function but the 'thoughtful words of encouragement, kindness & love' that makes friendship a very beautiful thing. I share her email here, as I feel it deserves to be read by all:
Oh my dear Princess Yamini,
I've just peeked at your blog and find myself overwhlemed with a mixture of emotions. Most notibly, I am incredibly excited for you because I know the adventure that lies ahead. I can “hear” the anticipation, joy, love, and excitement in your words, and I know exactly where you are right now. Isn’t it fun? Next (in order of magnitude) is a feeling that I must tell you to enjoy this time you have. The thought of being able to assemble such a wonderful (and pretty!) blog is unimaginable for me at this juncture in my life. I assume you are busy now, but believe it or not you will become more busy than you ever thought possible very soon. I know people have probably said this to you, but let me say it again. Set aside time for yourself, for your husband, for your life and savor it now. Be selfish. Spend time in the bathtub. Linger at the grocery store. Talk on the phone. Read. Organize your CDs. Write a letter. Run multiple errands in one afternoon. Cook great food. And sleep my friend. Sleep well. I know this is a concept that you will not truly appreciate until you’re on the other side of this fence called parenthood (at least that’s how it was with me) but heed my advice. I heard it, but I didn’t really realize what everyone was saying. I do not mean to scare you, rather, my intent is to help you. Really live your life as it is now and make a note to remember it. Let it sink in. In a few short weeks it will change dramatically and never be the same. Swindubaby will melt into your hearts and turn your whole world upside down. It is a fantasic adventure with all sorts of amazing things, but it’ll be different...and that’s okay. Take these final weeks of your pregnancy to enjoy and make mental notes of who you are today. The most amazing, life altering thing is about to happen and there’s no turning back.
Thank you Princess Yamini for creating such a wonderful blog for all of us. It feels like we are with you during this very exciting time and I love to see all the photos! You look beautiful BTW! I can’t wait to meet swindubaby!
thank you ingrid. you made my day.